If I listed my FetLife profile on my OkCupid profile I would be creating a whole new set of problems on top of the ones I already have with OkC. I’m not that “active” on FetLife; I’m about as active there as I am on Facebook. In both cases, I just can’t bring myself to care so much about the minutia of other peoples’ lives, whether those lives are literally bound, or bound up in “family,” or both.

If I referred folks to FetLife then I’d have to deal w/guys who not only assumed we’d fuck on the first date, but who assumed I’d peg ‘em on the first date, or they could fist me on the first date, or cockgag me on the first date, or tie me up on the first date, or any number of other things that I not only will not do on a first date, but probably won’t do, ever, with any particular individual. Because of that, I prefer my OkC dates not see my FetLife profile for the most part.

Thank you for the suggestion, but I’m going to stick to the problems I know rather than create new ones I’ve yet to encounter.

Here’s a thought however: How about just listing your FetLife profile name in your OkCupid profile and then requiring all interested persons to message you via FetLife? It seems to me that most persons you would be compatible with would have a FetLife profile, and by giving them an assignment you would automatically be weeding out the lazy and/or incompetent.

I mean your OkCupid profile says that you are interested in meeting in person versus chatting online or talking on the phone, but then you ding guys for suggesting a meeting too quickly.

Your profile also mentions that you are interested in casual sex, but you subsequently put down guys who simply follow up on that by suggesting casual sex.

More to the point however, is that I get the impression that you might not be clear on what you are really looking for. I mean, if all you are really interested in is having a good sexual experience, then why should a person’s casualness when it comes to written expression make any difference?

Given your earlier dating habits I can’t imagine that you are as discriminating in person as you tend to be when interacting with people online, or else your attitude has changed recently and you have decided to be more selective about your sexual partners.

Obviously you can do anything you want, and as I said I enjoy reading these sorts of posts. However, I thought you might want to know the impression that it creates in the minds of some readers.

You know what pisses me off? When people that don’t know fuck all about technology make pronouncements about it. WordPress is one of the most robust, most mature, most actively maintained and improved blogging platforms around. And there’s not too many 16 year old girls using a self hosted WordPress site. They’ll use Blogger/Blogspot, or maybe something more tailored for them like girlsblogspot.com.

As for Chicago, it’s an old, run down, working class city with an architecturally amazing downtown and a decent food scene. Oh, and totally sucky weather. It also seems to have more than it’s share of assholes and douchebags.